1: You have an OBLIGATION to support YOUR child, therefore you must PAY!
2: If you fall behind, then, you're a DEADBEAT DAD!
So you tell them, anyone who shoots this ridiculousness in your direction, you tell them this:
1: I DO have an obligation to support my child, but child support does NOT go to my child, it goes to his MOTHER. It supports HER. NOT the child.
2: Falling behind in child support (mother support) debt does not make anyone lesser of a person. It just means they can't afford to survive AND pay the mother money that she's probably not using on the child.